Friday, 25 September 2020

Just Simply The Cat

 The house is quiet almost nothing stirs but for the cat

 that is black and who slinks right back 

to the spot I have just been sitting contemplating the cat 

who contemplates me as I contemplate the silence 

broken by a meow

Wednesday, 16 September 2020

Two Years Since My Autism Diagnosis

 It is two years since my Autism diagnosis and nothing has changed other than I am still the same person , I don't expect anything from my diagnosis except that it is more me .I am still the same person I was before the diagnosis and the diagnosis gives me validity to how I feel.You don't have to get a diagnosis for your autism to be accepted but that is a whole different debate.I think being diagnosed now especially when you're younger does make things easier in accessing services and education but still there is a gaping hole within this sector.If I had being diagnosed when I was lounger then I think I would have ended up at a special school which would not have been suitable for my needs.Where as what I needed was helping in actually mapping out my ideas etc because I can have all the knowledge and know all the detail but not necessarily know how to commit that idea to paper.

When I was younger and life was in the moment I clung to those feeling s and moments of friendship and couldn't understand why I was shunned before I had even spoken it was if I had given off some sort of vibe .Children are awfully perceptive and they will be point blank with you most of the time and myself being left out was just one of those things that shouldn't have been.I would be punched and kicked and called names and there was nothing anyone could do , it was very much like Lord of Flies at school and though there were pockets of niceness school was pure hell.Not even my intelligence could save me as I moved to the higher set but maths was a no go as I can not handle numbers.You learn to play the game and you mask and you try to blend it but you just don't get it because you give social signals that people just don't understand.

It goes like this I can take and talk and think I am explaining myself but it is like I am talking say a multitude of languages all at once with people saying 

"What are you trying to say ?"

Interaction is both my nemesis and my want it is quite frankly like magnets repelling .

This is why I loved acting as a child and an adult I could be something I was nod and no one said otherwise but sadly I couldn't take it at GCSE as moving to a higher set it clashed with my GCSE choice.

Camouflaging is a way of autistics coping with the world but it comes with a great social cost, including heavy exhaustion and extreme anxiety.And one of the costs of this is not working which I did for many years as SEN teaching assistant amongst working in the cvil service but again in many of my jobs it was the situation where like the wounded gazelle I was hounded out of the job because I just didn't fit the social click.

And I was just about reclaiming my way in the world with helloing as a volunteer in a school and going to choir then who would have guessed a pandemic struck.

Walking For Relaxing

Walking I’ve been doing a lot of walking everywhere as well it’s free and it keeps me active and my mind in fine fettle.My mind hasn’t been in fine fettle it’s been under attack again from outside forces and just about every time I settle the outside influences reared their ugly head to harass me.And it can take me days to recover and then wham it happens again just as I felt happy again and every time I felt was the last time it wasn’t .But I’m a bottom of the tea cup optimist in so much as I feel that there tea cup can be filled up again .

Walking has a unique slowness to it if you do wish and I love being absorbed by it and letting my minds eye get captured.

Thursday, 10 September 2020

How To Make Reading A Book Feel Like A Nice Pair Of Slippers

There are some ground rules I think on this but saying that rules are there to be broken which adds to the fabric of life but please don’t do this in groups of more than six.

1 Familiarity 

Familiarity is often a safe bet as is choosing a murder mystery book it does exactly what it says on the tin or in this case book. Familiarity of a genre keeps you within your comfort zone whilst at times easing you out speed as if Miss Marple turned down Afternoon tea.Familiarity can also mean a place you’ve visited in early August myself and my husband visited Whistable and my lovely friend Jane knew immediately I’d love a book called Murder on the Downs set in Whistable. I love crime books as much as I love Kent as that is where my grandparents on both sides used to live, so it is an area I know very well and it has a very special place in my heart.

2 Make time

Time is like a pocket essential, we all lead busy lives and allowing out minds to decamp while reading a book is an absolute must.

3 Find your reading spot 

Your favourite spot might take a while to find but one spot I used to love was the library in a corner tucked away from the rest of the works with just me and a sea of discoveries in a book.We’d love a garden nook hidden away from the trials and tribulations of the day.

4 Wear what you like !

To feel relaxed you’ve got to feel comfortable in what you’re wearing unless your a naturist then you’ll be comfortable in your own skin.

5 Avoid popularity 

Everyone and everything is jostling for attention and your hard earned cash for you to buy their book but popularity can breed contempt at times .People see it as the in thing to read that book , I mean just look at 50 shades of  Grey ( charity shops are overrun with them )

Sunday, 6 September 2020

Gardening As Relaxtion

I am finding gardening very relaxing and I do love a potter in the garden , I don't have acres and acres but I have a nice enough space to play about with and one think I won't compromise on is losing my lawn even though I don't mow it.I am slowly planting up the garden more and more and my approach to garden is to plant things where I think they will be best suited with Covid and lockdown this has brought a tighsqueeze on the garden spending due to a cut in my husband wages.

When we go to the garden centre I always back a beeline to the reduced section and more often or not I do come away with a plant or 3 but I always stick to a budget or you could go albsoteldy bananas .I have always been given tomato plants from my neighbour which have faired well but as a tomato parent I was worried at first that they were not fruiting and I had my neighbour baffled but hey didi need fruit. I learnt that tomatoes fruit from the bottom upwards and I have been feeding my tomatoes and while my neighbour was peering over the fence myself and myself moved the tomatoes to a more sunny spot.

The other area of the the garden I have been working on is the the area near the apple tree which sadly dropped all its apples over the months but I am hopeful for next year because well you do have to be hopeful.

I’ve been planting the garden up with bulbs and some have come from Lidl and some from B & M and yes sometimes it’s a case of you get what you pay for .Buy I’m willing to take a chance on them , I think plants are like people and sometimes you’ve just got to take a chance on them.

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Friday, 28 August 2020

How Do You Keep Yourself Relevant To Today ?

Hello out there

I have just published a blog post which is the one prior to that and I thought about

" how do you keep yourself relevant to today "

I think the simple answer is you don't have to unless your face is your business and perhaps you're an international catwalk model , I mean the most thrilling thing I have done today is empty all the bon round the house ( exciting ) but that is relevant because I am actually getting up and doing something about it and then subsequently writing about it in this here blog post.

I did have some excitement when my garden waste bin was not collected for the second week period and I was a thing possessed firing off politely worded emails and result the bin got collected.I mean it was a only a few bin collection emails but I had such passion behind it and in this strange times any passion is a bonus I say.I hadn't blog for a week and no one noticed and nor should I expect them to ,  my cat however got some sexy requests over on Instagram and I have to say he is rather bemused by it all. Yes I know I know , I know my cat has an instagram account and no it isn't twee.

I do say what I feel and blog what I feel and there is no mystery in that , I am beyond my years and a wise old soul like a wizard trapped in a cat except I am not fluffy except for when I have not shaved my top lip.Not that I have a moustache that I can wax but if I did I would defiantly go for being in a Victorian curiosity side show and perhaps be able to do circus tricks as well.So I think I really think that keeping yourself relevant really does come down to being you and there is only one of you and it would be a shame to waste that.

My Mines Eye In Photography

My mines eye in photography is very important to me as it’s what makes me go oooooh with wonder at what I see and I rush of to capture it immediately.Though that’s been a little harder with social distancing but with places opening up with spaced out ticketed entry that is becoming somewhat easier.

When on a walk I tend to scan everything and everyone like a giant meerkat but not because I’m looking out for danger but I’m looking to see what catches my eye.Sometimes I’m hit immeasurably like a train with the view or shot and other times it is through my scanning of my surroundings.

And even before lockdown I was walking it’s a great form of exercise and when you’re out on a walk it’s like a anvil is lifted off your head ( bit like a cartoon character hit by an anvil )

Photography gives me a peace and acceptance of  being autistic and It helps me with my anxiety .

Friday, 14 August 2020

A Cat Birthday Card

I made my good friend Jane a birthday card she’s 21 plus a little more for social distancing

I embossed the inner bit with a Happy Birthday on a piece of card

I then used a card blank and stuck on a Simon Drew postcard I clip holes through both pieces and card and tied together with ribbon 

Wednesday, 12 August 2020

Staycationing In Kent

I have to admit I was awfully nervous about going away especially in this current climate but with my husband a key worker and working non stop , we felt a break was necessary.We though long and hard about where we should go and finally settled on Kent as we both know it so well and that’s where my late Grandparents used to live.But using points I had with Holiday inn I booked two nights near Canterbury, I also booked a time slot to go into Canterbury Cathedral one of those days.


This was where we started our Kent staycation arriving around midday just in time for a spot of lunch , Whsitable is a seaside town the North coast of Kent in South-East England , it is 5 miles North of Canterbury and 2 miles west of Herne Bay.Do check out places to park as we parked near the sea front and it was something like £2 a hour , I 'm pretty sure if you park further away you could grab yourself a bargain.Now if you go to Whitstable at the minute I would advise to take some cash for your eating and snack needs as some of the places we went to were only accepting cash which did seem a little odd in the current climate. You can do some lovely walks along the coast we walked round up to Tankerton Bay and nearly got to Herne Bay, when I am along the coast I could truly walk and walk for miles there is just something about it that embraces one.

Whistable Harbour 


Canterbury is a UNESCO World Heritage historic centre and the cathedral attracts visitors from all round the world. wee started our day milling round the city of Canterbury and it was not crowded and though it picked up later it still was not crowded and there is plenty of space to socially distance .We had plenty of time to wander around as we weren't booked into the cathedral till later on in the afternoon and Canterbury is a pure gem of a city never have I seen such a clear river and you can go punt trips down the river.

Canterbury Cathedral is the heart of the Church of England.The cathedral was founded in 597 AD by missionary St Augustine and over the years it was rebuilt by both the Saxons and the Normans.You can see where Thomas Becket was murdered in 1170 and also you can see the Toms of the Black Prince and Henry IV and be prepared to have your breath taken away by the impressive medieval stained glass windows.

Tuesday, 11 August 2020

Fried Portuguese Green Beans

First time cooking Peixinhos da horta (fried Green beans ) in my own kamikaze style , yes I know the beans should be whole etc etc but I was cooking on a wing and a prayer.


100 grams of plain flour ( though you could reduced the amount , it’s totally up to you)

3  eggs ( I only had 2 so added some milk )

Some salt and pepper 

Some herbs dried or fresh 




Wash and remove the Green beans strings and cut the ends, then place them in a saucepan full of water and season with salt.

Cook for around 10 -15 minutes 

Drain and set aside

Mx the flour eggs and a little salt in a bowl and any other flavouring I threw in some chicken seasonings

Dip around 3 -4 green beans at a time ( My Green beans were a bit more chopped up but it doesn't matter )  keep going till all the beans are coated

Heat a frying pan or skillet up and gently fry the beans on both sides 

Set aside on a plate that has kitchen towel on

I served mine on a bed of chopped chicken but it pretty much goes with anything I think and it’s a quick and easy lunch or supper perfect for humid hot days . You could add some diced shallot to the batter just to make a bit of a change , it is I think a really adaptable recipe.

Fried Portuguese Green Beans
Fried Portuguese Green beans 

Saturday, 25 July 2020

Lamb Meatballs With Braised Savoy Cabbage With Lentils And Lardons


Red Lentils now you can either follow the instructions on the packet of lentils or use canned ones

Premade lamb meatballs or make your own 

Lardons if you want 

Vegetable stock enough to braise the cabbage in 

Savoy cabbage cored and shredded 


First cook the meatballs they’ll probably take about 30 minutes depending on the size and cook at 180 c or higher through and keep warm .Though you can aim to cook the cabbage about halfway through .

Melt the butter in a pan add the landons and cook for 3-4 minutes 

Add the cabbage and mix well 

Then add the stock and cook for 10 minutes till tender

Add the pre cooked lentils and warm through 

Plate up with the meatballs add mozzarella and bung in the oven for a minute or 2 just to let the mozzarella melt 

Monday, 20 July 2020

Turning A StayCation Into A Yaycation

Yaycation that is a phrase I thought I would write let alone say much less irritating than the new normal .

I never thought this would be the year of the Staycation as In April Myself and my husband should have been winging our way to Corfu, we had heard so much about Corfu and we had managed to get a holiday for the bargain price of £595 half board and I was so happy.I though sunshine , wine and ruins and much much needed wandering as that as what I love doing on holiday. I am not much of a pool person or a beach person and I find it very hard to keep still until my gaze is captured by wonder.

More and more of us are going to be taking Staycations and the first Staycation you take in this current climate is always going to be filled with slight anticipation.I do have s Staycation planned at some point in Kent and yes I’m understandably slightly nervous but as long as I adhere to all the current guidelines then I’m sure all will be well (I hope )

I have seen people going on there breaks and it does seem normal out there but changed as we now have to wear masks on buses and shops and this is what I haven't experienced yet.I am avoiding buses and of course I will be wearing them in shops as from Thursday when I do go in a shop.

The shielding for me comes to an end on the 31st July and while I have popped out to the countryside in the form of National Trust and English Heritage properties .

One thing to do is to make sure you have a clean mask in a bag in the car just incase when you do go out you find that you have forgotten to put one in your shopping bag. Of course hand gel as well ( but never keep handle in your car just in case it catches fire because the high alcohol volume in the hand gel  as well as a back of tissues and some paracetamol , most people do have a First aid kit in their car.

I do recommend getting English Heritage and National Trust memberships as there social distancing at their properties is superb.Last weekend we went to Packwood  house which is only one of a few properties you can actually go inside at the moment.

Wednesday, 15 July 2020

My Happy Cat Called Jack

I have a cat I used to have two but now we’ve just got Jack and he’s always just been there as the cat my son has grown up with.I am sure the cat called Jack is happy in his heart , Jack at times does look like some sort of tortured hipster artist or poet who is desperately seeking their muse .The aimlessly wondering in then meowing and the staring into the middle distance are the signs of a true artist as your best work is done when you just stare and it is never just aimless staring .

Then there is the cat food first it was the posh stuff hand blessed by Monks in the Le Loire valley ( this strictly may not be true ) , Jack soon went off the posh stuff just after we had bought a case of 72 pouches , I mean obviously Jack is a blossoming restaurant critic and is yearning after a Michelin star meal I suspect , and will utter four letted tirades if everything is not up to his high standards. But now Jack likes Tesco cat food that is gravy based and touch wood he seems to be holding firm on this , so should I stock up on this cat food.

Jack would be a life observation comedian to delivering startling truth observations on life but he wouldn't be deemed rude as he would be good old happy Jack ( tongue firmly in most on the happy part ).Jack announces himself in a room sometimes and you have to work out he precisely wants and it often turns into an Alan Carr gameshow style programs ( does anyone really actually watch the, , it is time that I can never get back )

And when you have a cat you really do pander to its needs from a day bed in the front door to leaving on Classic FM for it to making sure it has its Teddy bear for bed time .I say Bed time but this usually signals having to let the cat out the front door and 2 minutes later opening to let it back in again.

Monday, 13 July 2020

Does Disability Inclusion Come Easy ?

Does disability Inclusion come easy ?

When I first joined my local ladies choir I was made very welcome but it took me a very long time to slot in and that, in part, was down to me being autistic. When a disability is invisible it can be very hard for you to been seen as anything other than normal but you are normal and being accepted is part of that. Being autistic I don't light up a room always socially and people find it hard to understand me and putting myself across takes a shed load of work and leaves me exhausted. I can write these words now and even now I wonder and worry how my words will be perceived!

Choirs are not always sunshine and roses - the real turning point for me was a rainy Sunday in May last year – my first performance with the choir, it was outdoors, raining hard and hardly any audience. It wasn’t our finest hour and I felt ill-prepared. Things have been much easier since although sometimes I still do find it hard to make myself heard but that is the rhythm of life just like the song! So like a phoenix out the fire I have grown in confidence and faith of heart. Throughout the last year and especially these last few months the choir have been there for one another and I am very honoured to be part of it. And that is the point of belonging to a choir it is a social anchor point and it more important that I ever realised especially during a pandemic such as we find ourselves in and I am so grateful that I have lovely members to reach out to even though we are not singing together.The power of music and friendships should never been underestimated as it is pure magic

Friday, 10 July 2020

Summer Daze Smoked Trout New Potato Salad

Summer daze smoked trout potato salad ideal for those summer days eating Al Fresco upon your terrace ( in my case my decking )

Summer I admit is rather confused at the minute and I have worn my winter coat this week . Summer will be here I'm sure of it ~ halycon days are the long fun filled days we remember from our childhood.

Smoked trout and new potato salad
Smoked trout new potato salad


Smoked trout
Mixed salad
Bacon bits

Jackies Vinaigrette

1 0z light olive oil
4 oz white wine
1 clove chopped garlic
1/2 Dry mustard
1/8 Cayenne pepper
1 Tbsp Brown sugar


Make the vinaigrette in advance of frying the bacon and warming the smoked trout through.

Cook the new potatoes enjoy for 2 people put to one side.

Combine 1/8 tsp Cayenne pepper,1 clove chopped garlic ,1 Tbsp Brown Sugar ,1/2/tsp dry mustard 1 oz of light Olive Oil , 4 oz of white wine vinegar in a suitable bottle / container that will allow you to drizzle over the salad.

Fry the bacon bits till lovely and crispy , I got my bacon bits from the village farm shop and they were £1.65 , then if you wish also warm through the smoked trout ( you don't have to but it does gives a beautiful roundness to the dish. next mix them together . Combine this with the cooked new potatoes.

View of the boating club
Just popping to the village farm shop

Place on a bed of mixed salad.

Drizzle over the Jackies vinaigrette

And enjoy

Hopefully outside.

Monday, 6 July 2020

Hot Dog Topping Grated Carrot and Black Bean

A few days I had hot dogs ( no it wasn't hot pets ) it was the food ! and I decided I really didn't want chips or fries or anything that was really heavy in carbs with them other than the hot dog buns. So I decided to instead grated some carrot and throw in some black beans and the result was I do have to say rather tasty.


Grated Carrot

Can of Black Bean ( drained )

Dash of Soy Sauce


Grate the carrot I used the big grating part of the grater

Next put a wok or frying pan on a medium heat with some oil in

Stir fry the carrot and black beans together till cooked and warmed through add a dash soy soy sauce and again mix.

serve on top of hot dogs or as a side accompaniment

Social Distancing At English Heritage Properies

English Heritage have started opening a number of their properties up and as soon as I heard I jumped straight on the booking site which I have to say was slightly easier than the National Trust as I could book far in advance with English Heritage.The first property we decided to go for was Kenilworth Castle as we hadn't been there in their yonks and we were desperate for green space and fresh air as we hadn't been further than the end of our noses in weeks and weeks.

And the signs were clear and the staff were remarkably well informed and there was a very calm atmosphere about the place.Social distancing is the new normal and it’s taking a bit of getting used to.

Kenilworth Castle is perfect for a relaxed stroll and it really does help to blow the cobwebs away.

Friday, 26 June 2020

Slow Cooker Spanish Style Chicken With Pitted Green Olives In A Piquillo Pepper Sauce


I was provided with some of the ingredients for this meal and the place curtesy of Sous Chef and of course it is up to you where you get your ingredients from you will find the links to the ingredients I was sent obviously in the ingredients list.


Chicken breasts for the number of people  you want

Chopped peppers

Fried chopped Onion

2 tins of chopped tomatoes

1 can of chicken soup

2 teaspoons of smoked Paprika from Sous Chef 

pitted green olives from Sosu Chef 

Chicken herb seasonings or chicken stock

Piquillo Pepper Paste from Sous Chef 


Fry the onion to begin with

Add the tins of chopped tomatoes and soup to the slow cooker along with the chicken , chopped peppers and fried onions

add in some chicken stock or a cup or 2 or water along with some chicken seasonings

Switch the slow cooker on medium and least for at least 5 hours ( longer is ok )

Serve with rice or Cous Cous 

Please do look at Sous Chef's Spanish collection 

Wednesday, 17 June 2020

Those Little Steps For your Mental Health

Now I will be brutally honest my mental health has not been the greatest at times and it isn't always linked to myself being autistic there are many other factors at play, depression is a complicated beast and can strike at anytime and lifting yourself out of it can be a herculean task i do have to say.
But do what you need to do to give yourself and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.It is as they say unprecedented times and we all deal with stuff in our own way. I have had periods of depression strike and it was hard for me before I knew I was autistic as I just couldn't get a handle on how I was feeling or why.I was never a take of pills for depression and why well they just didn't suit me personally as I later found out due to me being autistic they messed with my autistic function.This will not be the same for everyone and if you want and need to take tablets then do then is nothing wrong or shameful in doing so.

What helps me is music I telly love classical music and repetition is key for me it is the equivalent of someone stroking my forehead in a soothing manner and is like cool breeze on the soul.I partucalry love Beethoven and also I love at the minute the music of Joshua Bell when je played the theme Ladies in Lavender.

What helps though sometimes it is a murky place is social media I can tweet and Facebook all I like with I have to say unambiguous statuses and someone will come along and offer wisdom and advice.I have to look for the innate light in the darkness and I have to cling onto any chink of light I can fight to find my way again.And given lockdown it has been a topsey Turvey time.

Tuesday, 9 June 2020

There’s Hope In Green #30DaysWild

There’s hope in Green there’s hope in Green I find there’s always something Green about and it’s a very sensible backdrop colour to the world , Green is dependable  like a favourite pair of shoes.And yesterday we embarked like explorers on a walk to the shops well it was a scouting mission for my husband and his Photograghy.My husband remember s playing in certain woods as a child and was happy to reminisce as we walked and he was surprised that it wasn't further as in total we did 6 miles which let me tell you after an eternity in lockdown didn't seem like thousands of miles. But it was lovely for us all to get out as a family and my husband had a couple of days which to take off.

It is these type of days which like a memory marker for us and roots of memories are essential to enable to make sense of the world and everything that is going on.. I mean at the minute Mondays seem to blend into the next Monday with even more mediocrity than they did before.And though Monday is the mediocrity fullstops of the week I like my weeks to be full of adventure and wonder and excitement and that could be anything though I draw the line at sky diving.

I have more Green adventures on the horizon and what joyful situation that is and I can finally see beyond the end of my nose and I tell you it is a very short journey to the end of my nose.Geen distracts me from the turmoils of the world which I know will be changed but Green in nature doesn't care , Green cares.

It’s the month of June and I have to write that to remind myself ! and it’s #30dayswild and I’m loving rewilding myself from my garden to the ever so great outdoors.

Tuesday, 26 May 2020

Chickpeas With Braised Onion , Peppers And Green Beans

I wanted a change from potatoes so instead I literally threw this together and what is good about it it can also be used as a base for a fakeway Chinese for another day , this is my favourite lockdown sort of cooking where I can can make the best use of what I have to hand.We have been cooking for our son who was forced back form university when lockdown struck and so we have had to be inventive with the meals .Lockdown has not only made an impact on our food but also on our finances as well so I have to be inventive where I can and I hope in helping ourselves then this little old blog post can perhaps help someone else.But I don’t want to have to long a backstory that leaves you reaching for a pot noodle instead.


Sliced Onions

Sliced Peppers

Green Beans

Onion Gravy powder


Start off add some water in to a pan heat up and then add the onions , sliced peppers ,green beans and onion gravy powder.

Keep cooking until the onions are really soft

Then add the chickpeas and continue to heat through for little longer

Then you’re ready to serve with whatever dish you like from steak to adding into a Chinese .

Wednesday, 20 May 2020

Luxury Lockdown Macaroni Cheese


90 g of Macaroni per person I made this for 4 ( so my husband could take leftovers the next day )

whatever small bit of cheese I had left 

and a basic white sauce which the cheese got added to 

2 teaspoons of Dijon mustard though any mustard will do 

I added garlic with Italian herbs

homemade crotons 

left over soft cheese spread and 3 rashers of bacon

2 Tablesppons of plain flour

500 ml of milk ( I used some longline stuff I had bough mid panic )

Knob of butter/spread


First I cooked the pasta to just about 2 minutes under to what it should have been and set aside 

Next I made a basic white sauce by mixing the knob of butter/spread to the flour and mixed it together to make a paste

Next I added a little milk to it and gently heated it all up while constantly stirring and adding the rest of the milk , I kept going till I had a thick white sauce I added the cheese and Dijon mustard to this as well as some Italian herbs.

I Placed the macaroni in an oven proof dish and poured the white sauce over it for about 15 minutes at 180 while prepared the luxury topping .

I fried some chopped bacon then added in some soft cream cheese and some croutons I’d already made.

Monday, 18 May 2020

How Technology Can Help If You’re Autistic

Technology can really help anyone it can be a marvellous thing except if you’re my old dishwasher that is and you decide to have a midlife crisis and break down! Especially after you’ve treated it to a luxury dishwasher clean the equivalent of going to a 5 star Spa and having all the very best treatments. The technology that has really helped me is my Bose headphones and yes they're worth the price and they really have kept me calm and centred and combats me feeling overwhelmed.Headphones help you create your own piece of nirvana wether you're at home due to the current pandemic or you're on the daily commute or even out exercising.

Noise cancelling headphone are truly the wonder of the modern age because they help tune out any unwanted noise and there can be plenty of that at times.And I remember the old headphone I had as a youngster where I sat tethered to the stereo listening to The War Of The Worlds least now I can wander about and do other stuff !

I love my Bose QuietComfort 35 II and they are the headphones I am going to stick with , they're the right comfort and weight and do not pinch my head at all.I would say when you can with what's going on wait to try some out and see what suits you , but you do get what you pay for in the terms of headphones and I would rather buy one pair and they last a long time then keep buying loads of cheap pairs and have to throw they away.

Tuesday, 5 May 2020

Lockdown LOLs

Yeah I know Lockdown LOLs trips off the tongue and it has been taken up by ITV ( whispers no it hasn’t but you know I’m open to offers and even a spot on This Morning)

So what are my Lockdown LOLs this week well here goes :

You know that face when they don’t like something as a toddler trust me they still pull that face at 21 😂 you think I was trying to kill him with blueberries.

I only gave him some blueberries and raspberries with Elmlea so it wasn’t like I was trying to give him prunes and custard .Trust me prunes and custard was a thing to serve kids in the 70s and 80s.I mean didn’t we suffer enough with out bowl haircuts?

And also there’s a Starling imitating my neighbours mobile phone ring tone !

Sunday, 3 May 2020

Lockdown With Your Cat

Your cat will not failed to have noticed by now that you are home all the time every day apart from when you're taking the bin out which for me is a Friday ,strange how bin day has now started to signify the yay in Friday ... strange strange times. Your cat will mostly likely be giving you more strange looks than it ever did before and certainly it will not care that you're spooked by this.Everywhere you go your cat will be watching you , I am sure the Police song

"I will be watching you " was really about a cat

One way I am helping my cat and my sanity with coping with the sly looks etc from my cat is to give it quiet /safe spaces and one of these is a day bed and a night bed .I know it sounds very very hipster of the cat but this is how my cat is , it has a Danish design deep cat bed so it can curl round.As my cat has got older and it isn't that old it doesn't seem to like those cat bed that have a roof and I have had to give away several of these type of beds.

And as soon as you start any task that your cat doesn’t deem worthy then they’ll appear and let you know ..

Friday, 1 May 2020

The Struggle Of Being Autistic

I am autistic I discovered this in 2018 , I mean it's not like I found it like a lost sock.I for years had taught SEN children as a teaching assistant and I was was good at it and in 2017 I sought a diagnosis which is the diagnosis equivalent of going to Mordor will many struggles along the way.
You might look at me at think well she doesn't look autistic , yeah sorry about that my obvious label fell off.I don't aspire to be anything other than myself and putting how I feel into words is hard like finding that lost sock I mentioned.
I do not have an art talent and neither am I science genius ( I am no Sheldon Cooper from Big Bang theory.Think that lady of the chase Anne and that is more close to me with an incredible knowledge yet knitting alludes and if I did knit I am sure they would be some sort of knitting zombie apocalypse army and this is coming form the person who put google eyes on an Avocado .I do think life is made better by google eyes.
I think what I am trying to say without socially distancing beating around the bush is that I am an adult , I was that autistic child you see the one that is socially awkward and doesn't seem to gel with other kids.
I am not an autistic messiah on social media not do I claim to be though I do have to say I really have got better at baking and made some bread the other day. The kitchen did look like I was running a Mexico drugs cartel ( I am not I assure you )
SO do stay along for the no filter me ... I don't swear and I am not rude ..... googly eyes on a aubergine any one ?!

Wednesday, 29 April 2020

Easy Peasy Carbonara

Yesterday was a carbonara sort of day and made me think also of my Italian holidays.


2 tablespoons of plain flour 

Knob of butter / spread 
Mixed herbs 


Spoonful of mayonnaise 

500 ml milk


Make a roux with the flour and butter heat gently over a pan 

Once it’s all smooth then gradually add the milk 

Throw in the garlic herbs etc add a dollop if mayonnaise and a crack of black pepper 

Set aside 

Cook your spaghetti 

Reheat the sauce adding in a little extra milk if needed

Poor over spaghetti 

I had mine with salmon and green beans and bacon 

Sunday, 26 April 2020


Money Saving Tips for People Who Struggle with Cash

Some of us are more likely to struggle with cash than others.
It’s not that you don’t want to save money, it’s just that you have a hard time controlling the impulse to spend all of the cash that you earn as soon as it lands in your bank account. Maybe you get blown away by all the marketing and ads that you see when you’re living your day-to-day life. Or perhaps you have a problematic relationship with money that stems from somewhere else in your life.
Whatever the reason for your issues with money, it’s time to overcome the problem and start making progress towards a better quality of life. We’ve got some top tips for people who want to stop struggling with cash, once and for all. 

1.   Try Used Before Buying New

We often prefer the idea of buying new items rather than checking out thrift stores when we need a new piece of furniture or an updated phone. However, you’d be surprised how many high-quality items that you can get for a low price when they’ve been used, even if they were only used once or twice. Plenty of people open the packaging of an item and decide that they don’t want it. That means that you’re getting something that’s basically as good as new, for a fraction of the price.
These days, you don’t have to even wander around charity shops looking for what you need. There’s the option to shop for used items on everything from eBay to Facebook Marketplace. 

2.   Use Cash, Not Card

Spending just cash is often the best way to improve your relationship with money if you have a habit of spending passively. Basically, spending passively means that you buy things without thinking about how your purchases are going to affect you in the long term. However, if you go out knowing that you only have so much money to last you the entire week, then you’re more likely to pay attention to every penny. 
Freeze your debit or credit cards if you have to or give them to someone who will keep them out of reach. Once you’ve done that, figure out how much cash you need for each day, and take only that amount with you wherever you go. 

3.   Get Someone to Shop With You

This isn’t an excuse to send someone to the supermarket for you when you’re feeling lazy. However, if you know that you have trouble with sticking to lists or impulse purchasing, then it might be helpful to have someone you care about to join you as a kind of shopping buddy. They can come with you when you’re going to the supermarket to buy food every couple of weeks, and make sure that you don’t spend anymore than you’ve planned for. 
This is a great way to build up a habit of saying “no” to your impulses. As you begin to feel more confident in your ability to control your temptations, you’ll be able to start going shopping on your own again. 

4.   Look for Extra Ways to Earn

Maybe your issue with cash is that you never have enough of it. If the life that you want to live can’t be funded by your current career, then it might be time to look for other ways to earn. You’d be surprised by how much money you can make by setting up a freelance career in your spare time on the internet. You may need to borrow money from somewhere so you can afford a computer and the equipment that you need to run your side job, but eventually you’ll end up with a lot more cash in your savings account.
You might find that you’re so good at working digitally, that you can even turn it into your fundamental career. That means that you have the opportunity to build an entirely new lifestyle for yourself. 

5.   Sell Everything You Don’t Need

Finally, speaking of looking for extra ways to earn, go through all of your belongings and commit to selling anything that you haven’t used in the last few months. Unless the item has some serious sentimental value, then it’s probably just taking up space in your cupboards or closets. Get rid of the items that you don’t need and you could make a profit in the process. 
Not only will you make some extra money from your sales, but you’ll end up with more space in your home, and less clutter to worry about too. 

Friday, 24 April 2020

Chocolate Loaf With Green Tea and Vanilla

I was bored this morning so I vacuumed did the washing tidied oh and baked .....


100g/4oz unsalted butter, softened
110/4oz Dark Sugar
2 large eggs
0.5 tsp baking powder
1 tsp powdered instant coffee (optional)
175g/6oz plain flour
80g/3oz cocoa powder
2 tsp vanilla extract
100ml of Green Tea or you could use milk if you wish

Adjust quantities to suit.


Preheat the oven to 160c or gas mark 4 . You can either grease and line a 2lb cake tin with baking parchment or as I did use cake release from Lakeland.

First mix the sugar and butter together till fluffy .

Add the plain flour , coco powder and baking powder,  ( the optional coffee powder if you wish )
Add the 2 tsp of vanilla extract.
Next mix in the eggs.

Add 100 ml of Green tea.

The mixture will seem quite loose this is fine.

Pour the mixture into your prepared loaf tin .

The bake in the oven for around 1 hour 20 adjust your cooking time if you have a fan assisted oven.

Turn out the loaf , leave to cool.

Then decorate as you wish .

Hello boredom .. Hello